Living in the NOW

One of the concepts that we really work on with the boys is the idea that right now is the only thing you can do anything about. Don't worry about the past, you can't change it (even five minutes ago), and don't worry about the future because it's not here yet. Right now is where you are and when you need to be living. Of course, the decisions you make today will affect your tomorrow, but as long as you are doing your best and making the best decisions you can with what you have now, tomorrow will be just fine.

Questions, questions, constant questions...

I am currently sitting beside my youngest child, willing him to work faster on his homework. It's like watching grass grow, or paint dry. I can only will him to go faster because actually trying to hurry him along has the opposite effect and just makes the whole process slower. I would say that he has too much homework, but his brother has the same amount and he gets it all done with time left over to play. The plus side is that all his work is usually spot on and beautifully done. 


In addition to the incredibly slow pace he adopts when doing work, he has also taken to questioning every action, no matter how small. He doesn't seem to be able to make any decisions on his own, even when he has done the same thing many times before. Since nothing we were doing to help him at home seemed to be working, he has started seeing a psychologist. I am trying my best to be patient with him, and know that this will be a process. He didn't start with this behavior overnight. In fact, it has been coming on for a couple of years now, so I know that it may not change significantly for a while. In the meantime, I'm praying for patience and guidance on how best to help him overcome this new hurdle.